- In all honesty, do you feel that you give, while your partner takes?
- Is your relationship a parent/child relationship, rather than the interaction of two adults?
- Do you and your partner fight with increasing frequency and/or intensity?
- Do you find yourself frequently apologizing?
- Do you feel that you just need some space and time alone?
- Looking back over the last year of your relationship, do you feel that you have made the most of the sacrifices and changes?
- Do you find that you frequently make excuses for your mate, either to yourself or to other people?
- Do you feel that your emotional needs are not being met?
- If you answered, "yes" to #8: Do you feel that this has substantially cheated you out of a big part of your life?
- Are you physically frustrated in your relationship?
- Do you think that your relationship plays second fiddle to your mate's job, children, or other priorities?
- Do you keep significant secrets from your mate?
- Do you feel that you are being used?
- Do you feel that there is more to life than that which you are living in this relationship?
- Do you see patterns developing or being played out in your relationship that mirrors those in either of your parents' marriages?
- Do you find yourself too threatened to take the risk of true intimacy in your relationship?
- Do you feel that you are the only one who legitimately works on your relationship?
- Is guilt a major factor in your relationship?
- Do you feel that you are just going through the motions in your relationship?
- Is your partner more like a roommate than a partner?
- Do you entertain fantasies about not being in this relationship anymore?
- Do you find that in order to have peace and harmony with your mate, you have had to stop being who you really are?
- Have you and your partner stopped working at your relationship, and just accepted it as it is?
- Are you in this relationship today simply because you were in it yesterday, rather than because you really want to be?
Relationship Questionnaire
From the book: Life Strategies by Philip McGraw
