Relationship Questionnaire

From the book: Life Strategies by Philip McGraw
  1. In all honesty, do you feel that you give, while your partner takes?
  2. Is your relationship a parent/child relationship, rather than the interaction of two adults?
  3. Do you and your partner fight with increasing frequency and/or intensity?
  4. Do you find yourself frequently apologizing?
  5. Do you feel that you just need some space and time alone?
  6. Looking back over the last year of your relationship, do you feel that you have made the most of the sacrifices and changes?
  7. Do you find that you frequently make excuses for your mate, either to yourself or to other people?
  8. Do you feel that your emotional needs are not being met?
  9. If you answered, "yes" to #8: Do you feel that this has substantially cheated you out of a big part of your life?
  10. Are you physically frustrated in your relationship?
  11. Do you think that your relationship plays second fiddle to your mate's job, children, or other priorities?
  12. Do you keep significant secrets from your mate?
  13. Do you feel that you are being used?
  14. Do you feel that there is more to life than that which you are living in this relationship?
  15. Do you see patterns developing or being played out in your relationship that mirrors those in either of your parents' marriages?
  16. Do you find yourself too threatened to take the risk of true intimacy in your relationship?
  17. Do you feel that you are the only one who legitimately works on your relationship?
  18. Is guilt a major factor in your relationship?
  19. Do you feel that you are just going through the motions in your relationship?
  20. Is your partner more like a roommate than a partner?
  21. Do you entertain fantasies about not being in this relationship anymore?
  22. Do you find that in order to have peace and harmony with your mate, you have had to stop being who you really are?
  23. Have you and your partner stopped working at your relationship, and just accepted it as it is?
  24. Are you in this relationship today simply because you were in it yesterday, rather than because you really want to be?